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Well y’all, Fall is officially here! My little fam spent the last week of Summer vacationing in Hawaii and it was SO nice getting away. It was really important to me to spend the last few days of Summer soaking up the sun, soaking in some beautiful scenery and relaxing with some GOOD wine (and my 2 best dudes of course). This past week we stayed at a cute little condo in Kauai that actually sat on a cliff which made for some pretty awesome views, and some really relaxing evenings!

Now, If y’all know me, you KNOW that I’m a huge fan of wine – red, white, rose…you name it, I love it all. Having a picnic in Hawaii near the ocean & on top of a cliff was all my heart wanted and I’m happy to say WE MADE IT HAPPEN. We ordered a pizza from a local pizza place and had the cutest little picnic outside of our condo, and I mean, is a picnic even a picnic without wine?! NOPE. We enjoyed some JaM & Butter from JaM Cellars, which may just be my new “go to” weekly wine order.

JaM Cabernet and Butter Chardonnay both made an appearance at our date night picnic, because sometimes ya just can’t choose between white or red so you gotta go with BOTH. We did a little exploring, a whole lot of sipping and listened to the waves crash into the rocks – talk about #SummerBucketList goals…

All my wine loving ladies LISTEN UP,  I’m obviously no wine connoisseur BUT I do know what I like and what I don’t like and I have to say I was pleasantly surprised when I took my first sip of JaM Cabernet. It was ridiculously smooth and so delicious, the flavor has just the right amount of fruitiness and if I’m being honest I could totally drink the entire bottle in one sitting…Okay, okay I totally did drink the entire bottle in one sitting because Lord have mercy it was GOOD and mama needed some wine!! Don’t worry I did share some with Kyle, the JaM Cab was both mine and Kyle’s favorite – I typically get sick of the taste of red wine after one or two glasses but JaM Cab is definitely an exception. I’m placing an order for more this evening because Kyle and I are completely obsessed. The Butter Chardonnay was really tasty as well, and SO refreshing, we actually took it to the beach with us one day – it kind of just melts in your mouth which is actually fitting seeing as it’s called “Butter”…and I mean, let’s be real, everything’s better with butter!
Oh, and the best part?! JaM Cellars products are extremely affordable. so If you go through wine QUICKLY, like me, these are perfect for you! Let me know if you end up getting some for yourself, these would also make such a great gift!

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Happy Thursday friends!

I did a poll on Instagram and asked all of you if you prefer to shop my looks on the LiketoKnow.it app or on my blog and the majority of y’all chose the blog SO I’m going to start being more consistent on sharing different looks on here!

Today’s post is all about this cozy grey jumpsuit that literally feels like Heaven. I actually saw this jumpsuit online and scrolled right past it because it looks ridiculously frumpy on the model (WHY Nordstrom?!) But then I saw it on one of my fav bloggers and realized it actually looks super cute on!

I have been searching for a great “lounge” jumpsuit for Hawaii for weeks now so I was super excited when this came in and it was softer and cuter than I was thinking it was going to be.

I ordered the size small and it fits great, the drawstring allows you to cinch the waist however much you want and I pulled the legs up and tucked the extra fabric in for a (in my opinion) cuter look.
You can seriously create SO many different looks with this jumpsuit, but I’m just going to show y’all 3 today!
One loungewear/athleisure look, one date night look, & one comfy casual look!

This jumpsuit is just under $60, which I don’t typically consider cheap BUT
you can create so many different looks with it so I totally consider that a major steal!

This first look is more casual and extra cozy. Both this jumpsuit and this sweater are two of the softest things I own which pretty much makes this the most comfortable outfit I’ve ever created.
You could throw any comfy sweater over this jumpsuit for a cozy Fall look. You obviously can’t do a front tuck BUT any sweater would look SO cute with a little knot tied up in the front.

 

Look # 2 is a dressier look and would be so perfect for date night or a girls night out – Cute but still SO comfy.

Look #3 is my “go to” mom look, perfect for running errands, travel, soccer games, brunch with the girls…you name it!

Which look is your fav?!

Well y’all, It really is true what they say, you will completely surprise yourself when you become a parent. All of the things you said you would never do, you do them. You will be completely against something one week and the next week you’re ALL for it and implementing it. One month you will be a “go with the flow” parent that doesn’t believe in strict schedules and the next month you are staring at the clock to make sure your baby is napping and eating and sleeping EXACTLY when he/she is supposed to be in order to stay “on schedule”. Parenting is full of ups and downs and changes of heart, so if you’re new to this whole parenting thing, know that it’s totally okay to do something you said you’d never do…

Hayes has always been a pretty decent sleeper/easy baby. When he was a newborn he was up every 2 hours or so to eat, but he’d never scream he’d just grunt a little and I’d pick him up, nurse him, then lay him back down and he’d fall back asleep immediately…easy breezy (with a few rough nights of cluster feeding or just being extra fussy mixed in between of course).
I was even able to set him down awake and he’d just slowly fall asleep on his own. At 3 months he slept through the night for 7 nights straight and I legitimately thought we had the worlds best baby, I even bragged about him on facebook a little (rookie mistake)

Because then 4 months came…and that dreaded sleep regression everyone talks about hit us HARD.
We knew the sleep regression was coming so we were slightly prepared for it…but holy smokes it was ROUGH.
He was no longer our easy breezy baby and he would cry and scream when we tried to put him down at night,
was up every 2-3 hours again (some nights every 30 minutes) and not just awake, but screaming, which was SO hard. Most people said that their babies were back to their normal selves once they hit 5 months so I kept telling myself to just hang in there for a few more weeks and that this was temporary. Well, 5 months came around and nothing was changing. I was getting little to no sleep and was SO tired and grumpy and frustrated. I knew something needed to change, but I couldn’t even fathom him not being in the same room with us, that honestly wasn’t even an option.

I had ALWAYS said Hayes would be in our room for the first 6 months at the very very least, and honestly deep down I figured he’d be in our room until our next baby came and forced him out haha. I ended up talking to a few girlfriends who had recently done the Ferber method with their babes, also known as the “cry it out” and I was like “LOL NOPE, no way, can’t”. I ended up trying out the “Moms On Call” schedule that is supposed to help babies sleep through the night, and that didn’t work…I was going on 2 months of basically 30 minutes of sleep a night and I was LOSING it y’all. I was not myself and I didn’t have the energy to play and entertain Hayes during the day, and the littlest things were starting to make me have meltdowns and I was just DONE. I had lunch with one of my girlfriends who has a baby girl just 2 days older than Hayes and she was telling me about her experiences on sleep training.
She, along with a ton of other people basically told me that it would be 3 really really rough nights but then Hayes would be sleeping through the night and it would all be SO worth it. I knew it was time for Hayes to be in his own room, but it totally broke my heart.

The thought of my sweet baby boy not being right next to me absolutely killed me and I just couldn’t even comprehend it. Would I be able to stop staring at the monitor? Would he be okay? Would he think I abandoned him?! Will this make him grow up even faster?!

It was not an easy decision but it was one that HAD to be made. Kyle and I were so exhausted from no sleep and we both agreed that we were going to “sleep train” Hayes. My plan was to follow the Ferber Method, but kind of do it my own way. I was going to see how Hayes acted and how things went and if I wasn’t comfortable with hearing him cry then I was going to do whatever the heck I wanted to do no matter what the “method” said. I pretty much made myself SICK the day leading up to the night of “sleep training”. I did try to have him nap in his crib first before putting him there at night, so we did a few days on and off of him napping in his crib. Naps have always been hit or miss with him so some days he would fall asleep for an hour and some days he wouldn’t fall asleep at all.

ANYWAYS, the night came…the night that we were going to sleep train and that I was going to have to listen to my baby cry and I was going to be a crying mess myself…I was SO sick that entire day just thinking about how hard the next few nights would be…
Well, we did our normal bedtime routine, I sat in the rocking chair and I nursed him and he always falls somewhat asleep during his bedtime nursing session…I gently set him in his crib and I walked out. I stared at the monitor ALL NIGHT LONG, just waiting for him to wake up scared and screaming and needing me. I didn’t sleep for even 5 minutes that night because I just knew he was going to wake up ANY MINUTE. Well, he slept through the ENTIRE night…didn’t even make a peep! I was in complete shock. The next night wasn’t as easy but it wasn’t hard at all, he woke up a few times and cried but no longer than 2 minutes each time and I never had to go in there, he would end up soothing himself and falling back asleep.

{TRUST ME I’m aware that we are EXTREMELY LUCKY and this is not normal for most babies…most parents have to suffer through a few nights or weeks of hearing their babies cry and scream and it is absolutely awful and devastating…so please don’t think that I’m assuming sleep training is easy..we are SO fortunate and didn’t really have to “sleep train”.
I’m not telling y’all that if you do what we did your baby will magically sleep through the night, I’m just sharing my experiences and honestly I think Hayes was ready to be in his own room way before we moved him but I just wasn’t ready}

He has done SO well and has LOVED being in his own room and seriously sleeps so much better.
It’s also nice because we put him down around 7:30 and Kyle and I can hang out together or watch Netflix // just have some time as the two of us with no distractions.

One thing I’ve realized is that babies make a lot of noises when they sleep, sometimes they even cry in their sleep and when your baby is right next to you your natural instinct is to jump up and grab them. I can’t tell y’all how many times Hayes has been in his own room and has let out a big cry (in his sleep) only to be silent and content just 15 seconds later…Also, I know Kyle and I make noises in our sleep too which I’m sure would wake Hayes up when he was in our room!

It’s been exactly one month since we moved him into his own room, and every night hasn’t been perfect but we are ALL getting so much more sleep now than we were when he was in our room. We went out of town and it’s taken him a week or so to get adjusted again, he was waking up about once or twice a night because he’s teething and just wants to nurse for comfort and to soothe those aching gums, but he slept all night last night! I’m not really following any plan or method. If I can tell his cries are “fake” then I will let him cry for a little while and see if he ends up soothing himself, if he’s crying hard I’ll typically go in there and rub his back and try to calm him, and every now and then I’ll have to pick him up and nurse him.

Every day is different, and that’s okay.
I’ve been trying to get him to nap in his crib for 30 minutes now, & I gave up & he’s attached to my boob on the couch.
Give yourself grace mamas, & know that it’s okay to not be on a schedule.
& it’s also okay to be on a strict schedule.
If co sleeping works for you then DO IT.
YOU DO YOU MAMA.

With allllllll that being said, I really think Hayes was ready to be in his own room, it was definitely way harder on me to move him than it was for him. He loves his crib and also loves sleeping on his tummy!

Things that I believe help Hayes sleep more soundly and through the night: 
#1. Magic Sleep Suit
We’ve tried to transition him out of this and it’s been awful so we’re sticking to it for as long as we can. He prefers to sleep on his tummy now and he can lift up his head/entire body while wearing the suit so I haven’t found the suit to be dangerous whatsoever. We keep it cool in our house at night so there’s no chance of him overheating. He LOVES this suit and it makes him feel secure and cuddled all night long and he sleeps SO much better when he’s wearing it.
#2. Sound machine
I linked the one we have and it is AWESOME, it is a sound machine + night light and it has multiple different sound options, we’ve been using the rain sound and Hayes loves it! I will never use another sound machine – this once is seriously THE BOMB.
#3. Diffusing Essential Oils
I have a diffuser in Hayes’s room and I diffuse lavender during his naps and bedtime and I just feel like it makes it extra calm and relaxing in there
#4. Black out shade
We just got this super cheap one from Home Depot and it gets the job done!!
#5. Going to bed around the same time every night
This is super important, it does limit your night life as a parent BUT if we try to keep Hayes up past his bedtime (7:30/8) he gets super grumpy and it’s way harder to put him down and get him settled at night, and the later you put them down DOES NOT mean that they will wake up later – every now and then you may get lucky but typically they will wake up at their usual time no matter how late you put them down.
#6. Fill up their bellies REALLY WELL during the day! Make sure they get all of their nursing sessions in.
I had no clue that this affected their sleep (total newbie) I thought the older they got the longer they could go between feedings, NOPE. You should continue feeding your babe around every 3 hours or whenever they are hungry during the day!
I was trying to have Hayes go every 4 hours and he was waking up way more often at night.
I feed him every 2-3 hours during the day now and he sleeps so much better at night.
Apparently most people already know this, BUT I didn’t so I figured I’d share that with y’all just in case.

Feel free to comment any questions you have here or on my latest Instagram post!!

Happy Wednesday Y’all!
I’ve received tons of messages recently asking for tips on how to get through those first few weeks after having a baby especially once your husband goes back to work! I think I may have actually done a post like this when Hayes was a newborn but I figured I’d put another post together for y’all because, well, you can never have enough encouragement as a new mom!

I remember the day Kyle went back to work like it was yesterday…
Before I had Hayes I was SO scared of when that day would come.
Would I be able to handle him by myself? Would I cry all day and beg Kyle to come home? Would I be a good mom? What the heck were we going to do all day?!

Hayes was born on a Sunday morning (3:35AM) and Kyle stayed home with us for that first week, he had planned on taking two weeks off but ended up staying home the week before Hayes was born because our doctor had told us that he could come any minute..and being first time parents we took that VERY seriously and I didn’t want Kyle to leave my side in case I went into labor.

After Hayes was born we had visitors NONSTOP, like for real, it felt like every hour of every day someone new was coming over! Which was honestly, SO awesome… but also really overwhelming and totally exhausting.
I remember being a little excited to have Hayes all to myself and finally see what it would be like, BUT of course also very nervous about it. That Monday morning came quickly and I remember waking up and feeling totally fine, I wasn’t as nervous as I thought I’d be and I felt confident that we’d be just fine. I remember nursing Hayes in bed that morning and Kyle kissing us both goodbye, I was absolutely fine until the front door shut…I immediately burst into tears (HELLO hormones).
I wasn’t scared or nervous, I just missed Kyle already. We had just experienced the most incredible thing together and been side by side nonstop being a team and learning and growing together for two weeks straight. Our relationship grew and strengthened so much that week Hayes was born and gosh I missed Kyle SO much when he left us for work…
(For those of you messaging me about how our marriage has changed since having a baby, I talk about that on this blog post {HERE})

If you’re not a mama yet, but will be soon, you’ll learn VERY quickly that motherhood is full of ups and downs, there are really great days and there are really bad days…BUT even on the really really bad days there are still good moments, and I’ve learned that those moments are what you’ve got to cling onto when you’re about to lose your mind or start to consider selling your baby on instagram. (no joke, I literally told (shouted at) Hayes if he didn’t stop crying I was going to sell him…#momoftheyear)

There will be days where you will feel like superwoman and your child behaves perfectly, you shower and put makeup on, you clean the house and do the laundry, and you feel like you WERE MADE FOR THIS. And then there are other days where your baby won’t stop crying and the house is a mess and your dog won’t stop barking and you stink and haven’t had time to eat and you call and text your husband all day long in tears begging him to come home and help you.
We all have those days, all of us!

Motherhood can be extremely lonely and I know I’ve talked to y’all about this before but there are a few different things I did at the beginning that really helped me get through each day! I remember getting overwhelmed with visitors coming every day and I was honestly totally over it and couldn’t wait for Hayes and I to just have some time to ourselves! But once the visitors stopped coming, I’m not going to lie, I totally felt sad. So if people want to come hold your baby so you can shower, or want to bring you coffee or whatever LET THEM!
Tips for surviving:
#1 GO OUTSIDE – this is so so important. Fresh air is so good and it really does help when you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, sad, tired, you name it…do yourself a favor if you’re a new mom and go on a walk, or sit in your backyard or on your front porch because I’m telling you it is SO much better than being locked inside your house all day.

#2 Get in the car and listen to music – If you have a baby that loves the car and falls asleep as soon as you turn on the engine, TAKE ADVANTAGE of it! Even if you don’t actually go to a store or public place, get in your car and drive around and listen to music or get yourself a milkshake (you deserve it), I swear a car ride with some good music is good for the soul.

#3 Join a facebook group or some kind of community for new moms – If you don’t have friends that are going through the same thing as you or people that can relate to you, you will feel SO ALONE. I was extremely lucky and had a good amount of friends going through the same thing as me or friends that had just gone through the same thing but also having all of you on here and on Instagram to chat with or ask questions was seriously so incredibly helpful.

#4 Start your day with Jesus and coffee. In the beginning when I was extra hormonal and extra exhausted I would always start my mornings with worship music and I swear it would always put me in a better mood and make me feel so grateful no matter how tough our night was. And well, coffee is everything…

#5 Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to have it all together – This may be the most important tip, the absolute worst thing you can do to yourself as a new mom is compare yourself to other moms. Everyones story is different, everyones baby is different. The moms you see on social media with perfectly posed pictures and beautifully decorated spotless houses are a freaking hot mess too they just know how to hide it! Y’all should see the amount of laundry I let pile up each week, its absurd. And don’t even get me started on the dog hair all over E V E R Y T H I N G. I post cute outfits on Instagram pretty often but day to day? I’m wearing the ugliest/most comfortable granny panties with a huge tee shirt, no make up, and dirty hair. So embrace the chaos mamas, we’re all just doing our best, and YOU are doing great and deserve a really nice prize.

For those of you that will become a mama soon or are in that newborn phase, HANG IN THERE!
I promise you it does get easier, and as each month passes your baby will just get cuter and cuter and more fun!
I still learn new things every day but I also feel like I’m really getting the hang of this whole “mom” thing,
and heck I feel pretty proud of myself and YOU should too!
We are 5.5 months in and we are all sleeping through the night (since a few days ago, shout out to Jesus)
Hoping it stays that way, but not counting on it because as soon as we all get an awesome routine going Hayes decides to go through a growth spurt, or developmental leap, or starts teething or SOMETHING and throws us all off.
BUT, I wouldn’t change a thing.
Mom life is the best life.

Okay y’all,
The post that SO MANY of you have been waiting for!!
I really really hope this post doesn’t disappoint and answers all of your questions, BUT if it doesn’t, please feel free to comment/email/DM me if you have any questions whatsoever!!

Before I get started I HAD to show y’all my outfit from last weekends rehearsal dinner…
I felt more confident than I have in a WHILE and I figured that needed to be documented!
I’m completely obsessed with this rainbow dress and I’m going to wear it AS MUCH as possible while it’s still hot outside.
Can’t wait to dress it down and pair it with some cute sneakers soon.



 

Okay so, I really wanted to wait and do this post when I was 100% back in shape BUT I’m getting overwhelmed with all of the DM’s asking about what I’ve been doing to lose the baby weight SO I figured I would share a little about what I’ve been doing to slowly get rid of it and what my long term plans and goals are!!

First things first, I gained about 35 lbs during my pregnancy and I really didn’t do much working out, which I regret!
I did a good amount of walking and would very very occasionally do some body weight exercises at home BUT the next time around I really want to try and work out through my entire pregnancy…
Because working out again when you haven’t worked out in over a year is NOT easy… it actually freaking sucks haha

So the first 6 weeks after Hayes was born I really wasn’t even thinking about losing weight. I was in full on new mom mode and just soaking up everything and appreciating my body for what it had just done!

However, I swear breastfeeding helped me tremendously those first few weeks when it comes to weight loss! I started going on little walks as soon as I felt up for it just to get my body moving, but BE CAREFUL and do not overdo it in those first few weeks! I was super sore one morning and way overdid it on one of my walks so I had to take a break for a week or so. Giving birth is SERIOUS business and your body needs plenty of time to heal, so seriously y’all, do not rush into working out!!
As far as eating goes, I feel like my main food source was straight carbs the first 3 months of Hayes’s life,
I seriously couldn’t get enough carbs and they were the only thing that satisfied me.
Breastfeeding hunger is no joke!
I kind of just ate what I wanted and then as soon as I was cleared to work out again I continued to eat what I wanted but was way more aware of my portions and wouldn’t overdo it, especially at night!

I’ve worked out a good amount since having Hayes but I’m definitely not as consistent as I’d like to be!
I think the hardest part for most people is finding the motivation to get up and get moving…especially for new exhausted moms!
But now, on top of that, I have to find the TIME. Hayes is always pretty consistent with his morning nap so I’ve learned that I need to do my work out during that time frame or it most likely won’t get done!
I usually use that time for blogging or household stuff but in order to make sure I get a work out in I’ve had to switch up our schedule a little bit, but y’all, I am SO MUCH HAPPIER and more energetic on the days that I get a work out in!

Alright, WHAT WORKOUTS HAVE I BEEN DOING?! 

Before I get started I just want to preface this and say I AM NOT trying to sell this to y’all.
I am “technically” still a coach (became one a few years ago so I could get discount on the shakes) and if you do order stuff through my links I will get a small commission, but y’all, I genuinely SWEAR by these work outs and this shake and I probably won’t ever get a gym membership again because I believe in the program so much.
Honestly, throughout my pregnancy I gained weight pretty quickly at first but I was NEVER worried because I knew exactly how I was going to lose it all afterwards.

Okay, so anyways…
A few years ago I decided to order a challenge pack from BeachBody and it completely changed my body.
After about 2-3 months of doing the at home work outs and drinking their protein/superfood shake for lunch every day I was legitimately in THE best shape of my life. Please don’t be confused though, I DID put in the work every day (5 days a week) and this is not some “miracle program” where you can drink some shake and get abs. This is a program that is designed to help you create a habit of working out regularly and living a healthy lifestyle, it provides you with awesome 30 minute work outs that can be done at home as well as a meal replacement shake that is packed full of superfoods. So basically, it’s teaching you to make better/healthier choices each day, which of course leads to a healthier body!
I have always struggled with eating junk or grabbing something quick (like an XL bag of hot cheetos) when I’m starving and having this shake on hand has been a total game changer, especially since becoming a mom. It’s full of nutrients and good things that your body needs and I have always sucked at making sure I get in all of my fruits and vegetable so I LOVE that I can quickly make a healthy shake after working out and know that I’m getting a ton of nutrients from it.

Now, yes I had heard of BeachBody before and I had even done some of their workout programs in high school and college, but for some reason I wasn’t a huge fan, they were either CRAZY hard or I just couldn’t get into it…but this one was different, no clue why, it just was…or maybe I was just super motivated. I don’t know what it was but it is hands down MY FAVORITE work out program.
So whenever I first started the program I decided to go with the 21 day fix challenge pack (work outs + shake) and after doing two rounds of that (6 weeks) I moved on to the 21 day fix extreme challenge pack and that’s really when I started noticing some muscle poppin’ and the love handles that I had been trying my entire life to get rid of finally disappear.
After having Hayes I just went straight into the extreme work outs again because they’re my favorite, did I have to modify some of the moves? YEP. Do they kick my butt? YEP. But I loved what they did to my body previously, so I’ve been doing those occasionally as well as drinking a shake for lunch every now and then.

(When I first did this work out program years ago I had AWESOME before and after photos but I can’t find them anywhere and I’m so disappointed…so I guess I’ll have to take some new ones for y’all!)

Since we have Hawaii coming up I really want to start being more consistent and get my butt back in shape.
I have lost the baby weight BUT my tummy is nowhere near as toned as it used to be and my booty is pretty sad right now.
So starting Monday I’m going to restart the 21 day fix extreme program and I’m super pumped about it!!
I’m going to do two rounds of it which means I have exactly 6 weeks to get my butt in shape for our trip!
I’m also going to start having the shake for lunch every single day instead of just occasionally.

BeachBody has TONS of awesome programs but the 21DF programs are definitely a favorite of mine AND I’ve done them before and know that they can change your body significantly if you’re consistent! I’ll be keeping y’all updated with everything and will of course let y’all know when I decide to try out a different program of theirs!
If you have any questions on the work outs or the shake or if you want to start a program with me and keep each other accountable just holler at ya girl!

As far as my diet goes, I definitely am not super strict!
I love a good queso + margarita night and pizza and I are totally BFFs.
But I really do try to eat “good” most of the time!

I typically have some oatmeal + an English muffin every morning (& fruit if we have any!)
Shakeology for lunch
And for dinner we’ve been doing Blue Apron!
It is SO easy and convenient and you can even choose your meals for the upcoming weeks.
I love it because I am NOT a cook and trying to come up with meals to cook every week totally stresses me out…
Bonus, the meals are usually super healthy and always delicious!!

I’m sure I’ll get asked this – I drink the Vegan Vanilla shakeology! and I get the bag instead of the individual packets.
I’ve tried both chocolate and strawberry but I like the vanilla because you can make so many different recipes out of it!
If you’re thinking about getting a work out program and also want to try the shakes make sure you order a challenge pack and don’t order them individually, you’ll save $$ that way!!

Okay y’all, that’s it for today!!
Love you and thanks for stopping by!