Why we decided to transition Hayes into his own room

Well y’all, It really is true what they say, you will completely surprise yourself when you become a parent. All of the things you said you would never do, you do them. You will be completely against something one week and the next week you’re ALL for it and implementing it. One month you will be a “go with the flow” parent that doesn’t believe in strict schedules and the next month you are staring at the clock to make sure your baby is napping and eating and sleeping EXACTLY when he/she is supposed to be in order to stay “on schedule”. Parenting is full of ups and downs and changes of heart, so if you’re new to this whole parenting thing, know that it’s totally okay to do something you said you’d never do…

Hayes has always been a pretty decent sleeper/easy baby. When he was a newborn he was up every 2 hours or so to eat, but he’d never scream he’d just grunt a little and I’d pick him up, nurse him, then lay him back down and he’d fall back asleep immediately…easy breezy (with a few rough nights of cluster feeding or just being extra fussy mixed in between of course).
I was even able to set him down awake and he’d just slowly fall asleep on his own. At 3 months he slept through the night for 7 nights straight and I legitimately thought we had the worlds best baby, I even bragged about him on facebook a little (rookie mistake)

Because then 4 months came…and that dreaded sleep regression everyone talks about hit us HARD.
We knew the sleep regression was coming so we were slightly prepared for it…but holy smokes it was ROUGH.
He was no longer our easy breezy baby and he would cry and scream when we tried to put him down at night,
was up every 2-3 hours again (some nights every 30 minutes) and not just awake, but screaming, which was SO hard. Most people said that their babies were back to their normal selves once they hit 5 months so I kept telling myself to just hang in there for a few more weeks and that this was temporary. Well, 5 months came around and nothing was changing. I was getting little to no sleep and was SO tired and grumpy and frustrated. I knew something needed to change, but I couldn’t even fathom him not being in the same room with us, that honestly wasn’t even an option.

I had ALWAYS said Hayes would be in our room for the first 6 months at the very very least, and honestly deep down I figured he’d be in our room until our next baby came and forced him out haha. I ended up talking to a few girlfriends who had recently done the Ferber method with their babes, also known as the “cry it out” and I was like “LOL NOPE, no way, can’t”. I ended up trying out the “Moms On Call” schedule that is supposed to help babies sleep through the night, and that didn’t work…I was going on 2 months of basically 30 minutes of sleep a night and I was LOSING it y’all. I was not myself and I didn’t have the energy to play and entertain Hayes during the day, and the littlest things were starting to make me have meltdowns and I was just DONE. I had lunch with one of my girlfriends who has a baby girl just 2 days older than Hayes and she was telling me about her experiences on sleep training.
She, along with a ton of other people basically told me that it would be 3 really really rough nights but then Hayes would be sleeping through the night and it would all be SO worth it. I knew it was time for Hayes to be in his own room, but it totally broke my heart.

The thought of my sweet baby boy not being right next to me absolutely killed me and I just couldn’t even comprehend it. Would I be able to stop staring at the monitor? Would he be okay? Would he think I abandoned him?! Will this make him grow up even faster?!

It was not an easy decision but it was one that HAD to be made. Kyle and I were so exhausted from no sleep and we both agreed that we were going to “sleep train” Hayes. My plan was to follow the Ferber Method, but kind of do it my own way. I was going to see how Hayes acted and how things went and if I wasn’t comfortable with hearing him cry then I was going to do whatever the heck I wanted to do no matter what the “method” said. I pretty much made myself SICK the day leading up to the night of “sleep training”. I did try to have him nap in his crib first before putting him there at night, so we did a few days on and off of him napping in his crib. Naps have always been hit or miss with him so some days he would fall asleep for an hour and some days he wouldn’t fall asleep at all.

ANYWAYS, the night came…the night that we were going to sleep train and that I was going to have to listen to my baby cry and I was going to be a crying mess myself…I was SO sick that entire day just thinking about how hard the next few nights would be…
Well, we did our normal bedtime routine, I sat in the rocking chair and I nursed him and he always falls somewhat asleep during his bedtime nursing session…I gently set him in his crib and I walked out. I stared at the monitor ALL NIGHT LONG, just waiting for him to wake up scared and screaming and needing me. I didn’t sleep for even 5 minutes that night because I just knew he was going to wake up ANY MINUTE. Well, he slept through the ENTIRE night…didn’t even make a peep! I was in complete shock. The next night wasn’t as easy but it wasn’t hard at all, he woke up a few times and cried but no longer than 2 minutes each time and I never had to go in there, he would end up soothing himself and falling back asleep.

{TRUST ME I’m aware that we are EXTREMELY LUCKY and this is not normal for most babies…most parents have to suffer through a few nights or weeks of hearing their babies cry and scream and it is absolutely awful and devastating…so please don’t think that I’m assuming sleep training is easy..we are SO fortunate and didn’t really have to “sleep train”.
I’m not telling y’all that if you do what we did your baby will magically sleep through the night, I’m just sharing my experiences and honestly I think Hayes was ready to be in his own room way before we moved him but I just wasn’t ready}

He has done SO well and has LOVED being in his own room and seriously sleeps so much better.
It’s also nice because we put him down around 7:30 and Kyle and I can hang out together or watch Netflix // just have some time as the two of us with no distractions.

One thing I’ve realized is that babies make a lot of noises when they sleep, sometimes they even cry in their sleep and when your baby is right next to you your natural instinct is to jump up and grab them. I can’t tell y’all how many times Hayes has been in his own room and has let out a big cry (in his sleep) only to be silent and content just 15 seconds later…Also, I know Kyle and I make noises in our sleep too which I’m sure would wake Hayes up when he was in our room!

It’s been exactly one month since we moved him into his own room, and every night hasn’t been perfect but we are ALL getting so much more sleep now than we were when he was in our room. We went out of town and it’s taken him a week or so to get adjusted again, he was waking up about once or twice a night because he’s teething and just wants to nurse for comfort and to soothe those aching gums, but he slept all night last night! I’m not really following any plan or method. If I can tell his cries are “fake” then I will let him cry for a little while and see if he ends up soothing himself, if he’s crying hard I’ll typically go in there and rub his back and try to calm him, and every now and then I’ll have to pick him up and nurse him.

Every day is different, and that’s okay.
I’ve been trying to get him to nap in his crib for 30 minutes now, & I gave up & he’s attached to my boob on the couch.
Give yourself grace mamas, & know that it’s okay to not be on a schedule.
& it’s also okay to be on a strict schedule.
If co sleeping works for you then DO IT.
YOU DO YOU MAMA.

With allllllll that being said, I really think Hayes was ready to be in his own room, it was definitely way harder on me to move him than it was for him. He loves his crib and also loves sleeping on his tummy!

Things that I believe help Hayes sleep more soundly and through the night: 
#1. Magic Sleep Suit
We’ve tried to transition him out of this and it’s been awful so we’re sticking to it for as long as we can. He prefers to sleep on his tummy now and he can lift up his head/entire body while wearing the suit so I haven’t found the suit to be dangerous whatsoever. We keep it cool in our house at night so there’s no chance of him overheating. He LOVES this suit and it makes him feel secure and cuddled all night long and he sleeps SO much better when he’s wearing it.
#2. Sound machine
I linked the one we have and it is AWESOME, it is a sound machine + night light and it has multiple different sound options, we’ve been using the rain sound and Hayes loves it! I will never use another sound machine – this once is seriously THE BOMB.
#3. Diffusing Essential Oils
I have a diffuser in Hayes’s room and I diffuse lavender during his naps and bedtime and I just feel like it makes it extra calm and relaxing in there
#4. Black out shade
We just got this super cheap one from Home Depot and it gets the job done!!
#5. Going to bed around the same time every night
This is super important, it does limit your night life as a parent BUT if we try to keep Hayes up past his bedtime (7:30/8) he gets super grumpy and it’s way harder to put him down and get him settled at night, and the later you put them down DOES NOT mean that they will wake up later – every now and then you may get lucky but typically they will wake up at their usual time no matter how late you put them down.
#6. Fill up their bellies REALLY WELL during the day! Make sure they get all of their nursing sessions in.
I had no clue that this affected their sleep (total newbie) I thought the older they got the longer they could go between feedings, NOPE. You should continue feeding your babe around every 3 hours or whenever they are hungry during the day!
I was trying to have Hayes go every 4 hours and he was waking up way more often at night.
I feed him every 2-3 hours during the day now and he sleeps so much better at night.
Apparently most people already know this, BUT I didn’t so I figured I’d share that with y’all just in case.

Feel free to comment any questions you have here or on my latest Instagram post!!

Just a few of our favorite things!

Sheesh, it’s been a while since I got a blog post up, and I’m SO sorry about that y’all!!
Mom life is ALL consuming. I’ve been so distracted and honestly, so lazy.
My mind has been going crazy with all kinds of blog post ideas but I haven’t sat down and taken the time to just be still and W R I T E.
I’ve also found myself prioritizing social media lately and I definitely don’t want to make that a habit.
This blog of mine is so special to me and I love that I can come on here and express myself and share my experiences and feelings and life with y’all, of course I can do that on social media as well…
But the fact that this Blog is MINE, I own it, I created it, and pour my heart into it regularly…
It’s just an extra special place!

Well, ANYWAYS…Let’s get on to today’s post…
I know a lot of you who follow me are currently pregnant or are new mamas!
So I wanted to share a few of mine and Hayes’s favorite things!!

Favorite baby essentials:

Favorite Diapers: Up&Up
We’ve tried a few (4) different brands and the Up&Up diapers have been the best for Hayes, I love how they fit him and he very rarely has any leaks and they’re seriously SO soft!!

Favorite Bottles: Munchkin Latch (currently using level 3 nipple)
Okay y’all, if you follow me on Instagram you know we had a ROUGH time getting Hayes to take a bottle…I ended up purchasing a bunch of different brands and

Favorite Swaddle: The Ollie Swaddle
Hands down, no questions asked, we use it every single night and he can’t escape from it! It’s made of a breathable fabric and is velcro so it’s SUPER easy, even for newbies!

Favorite Pacifier: Wubbanub 
Hayes has NEVER been into pacifiers, he took a Natursutten occasionally but I would always have to hold it in his mouth for him. He has completely fallen in love with his wubba, holds it himself and gets SO excited when he sees it! I think the stuffed animal aspect helps comfort him and it’s the sweetest thing ever!

Favorite Carrier: Boppy Carrier
I also have a Solly and a Wildbird carrier but the Boppy carrier is more sturdy and seriously SO much easier// more convenient!!! Solly and wildbird are great for around the house, but then again so is the boppy haha

Favorite Wipes: Young Living Lavender Wipes // or Pampers Pure
I love everything about the young living wipes, they smell phenomenal, they are a bit pricey though and you need to have an account to order some, I highly suggest ordering the starter kit, you get all of the main oils (we use oils for bedtime/diffusing/tummy issues etc) We love pampers pure wipes as well!

Favorite Blankets: Little Unicorn Quilts and Carters Swaddle blankets
We have 2 of the Little Unicorn quilts in different prints and we seriously LOVE them and use them every day for different things – they’re perfect for laying down for tummy time & naps and GREAT for when it’s cooler outside. These swaddle blankets are also super soft and cozy but more lightweight and easy to throw in the diaper bag//take anywhere!

Favorite Play Mat: Simple + Not obnoxious or Fun & Interactive
Okay, this Pottery Barn play mat is by far the cutest//least obnoxious play mat ever invented and Hayes loves it!! I just purchased this interactive one after seeing so many other people share their babies using it and having SO much fun, Hayes hasn’t used it yet but I have a feeling we’re both going to have SO much fun with it!

Favorite Burp Cloths: These swaddles make excellent burp cloths
They’re big and absorbent and get the job done!

Favorite Bath Soap: Honest shampoo & body wash

Favorite Lotion: 100% Organic Coconut Oil
Been lathering little dude in this since he was born and it’s been so good for his skin!

Favorite Pump Accessories: THIS hands free pumping bra & this Haakaa pump & THESE storage bags 

Favorite Diaper Bag: Fawn Design & Freshly Picked 
I find backpack diaper bags WAY more convenient and I honestly can’t even imagine using a regular bag.

Favorite Jammies: Anything that ZIPS! Like this or these

Favorite Towels: Cloud Island
I have a severe obsession with hooded towels…like it’s bad, I think we have 928 hooded towels…but they’re SO DANG CUTE.

Favorite thing to put Hayes in while I shower/get ready: Bjorn Bouncer & Dock A Tot 

Our Bassinet: Halo 

You can easily shop all of the products I mentioned by clicking on the picture below!

If I missed anything that y’all are curious about leave me a comment and I’ll add it to the post as soon as I can!!
Hope all of you have a fun & relaxing weekend!!

How I manage to get any sleep as a new mama

Okay so I totally struggled with what to title this post because we aren’t exactly on a “schedule” yet,
more like a night time routine that happens often, but not always lol

We are officially parents of an ALMOST 1 month old… WHAT?!? So crazy to me.
Our pediatrician told us at our last appointment that there’s really no reason to try and get Hayes on a strict schedule yet, he’s still so little and is kind of going to be doing what he wants when he wants, so right now I just nurse him when he’s hungry, and let him sleep when he’s sleeping.
However, I have been trying to keep him awake a little more during the day time so that he understands day from night a little better!

Alright, here we go…
As a new mama it is SO hard to start a schedule… you’re in survival mode, you’re exhausted,
and honestly, the last thing you want is to be following a timeline or a schedule…
So, unlike most people, I’ve been pretty chill about the whole schedule thing.
Will I regret this later? maybe? maybe not? Who knows.
But this is what’s been working for us right now!!

So we currently bathe Hayes twice a week, we’ve designated Tuesdays and Fridays as our bath days!
Newborns have super sensitive skin and they really don’t get dirty, so if you bathe them
too often it can cause their skin to majorly dry out and start peeling.
Kyle gets home from work around 5:30/6 and we typically go on a little family walk.
On Tuesdays and Fridays (bath nights) we try to give Hayes his bath around 7:30!
After his bath we put coconut oil all over his little body as a lotion/moisturizer,
and then we “prep the house” for bed – This step is SUPER important.
My sweet friend Jamie filled me in on this and I’m SO thankful she did….
So babies are VERY easily overstimulated.
So at night time, we make sure to dim all the lights in the house, make sure the TV isn’t too loud and keep things as calm and “night time” like as possible.

So in order for me to get a couple hours of uninterrupted sleep, I nurse Hayes and go to bed around 8 or 9.
Kyle stays up with him and they hang out in the living room and if he happens to get hungry again Kyle will give him a bottle of my breastmilk so I can rest.
At first I was really nervous to give Hayes a bottle, I was so worried that giving him a bottle would make him not want to breastfeed, BUT after a week of pretty much NO sleep whatsoever, you’ll do anything lol
And good news, he still prefers his mama!

So when I go to bed around 8 or 9, this is when my “main sleep” happens. I know Hayes is being cared for by his daddy and I don’t have to feed him anytime soon since he’ll be getting a bottle and I can finally relax.
This sleep stretch can be anywhere from 1-4 hours.
Those 4 hour nights are extremely rare but goodness they’re incredible and make me feel like I can conquer the world! Those 1 hour nights are TOUGH and are when Hayes is cluster feeding or can only be soothed by his mama.

Around 11 or 12 they’ll both come to bed and Hayes is typically ready to eat again,
so i’ll nurse him, change his diaper and then mama night shift begins!
Every night is different, Hayes typically wakes up about every 2 hours to eat, and I’ll feed him, burp him and change him.
Occasionally he’ll want to eat every hour and those nights are longggggg and tough, life with a newborn is just really unpredictable!
I stay in bed when I nurse him and Kyle is usually able to sleep through it, which is good!

I’m sure I’ll get some questions about this so I’ll go ahead and answer!!
Yes, Hayes sleeps in bed with us and No, I never thought/planned we would be co sleeping.
He sleeps right in between us in his Dock A Tot and I love having him close by, for right now.
He’s still my tiny little newborn and I totally get separation anxiety when I can’t see or hear him.
Although I LOVE having Hayes right next to me, Kyle and I are definitely missing going to bed together and sleeping next to each other, so I’m not sure how long this “routine” and co sleeping thing are going to last.
BUT for right now, it’s what works for us!

I also want to share a few things that I think really help Hayes sleep at night!
Kyle and I have always had the TV on at night when we fall asleep but ladies and gentlemen,
that is now a thing of the past.
I started to notice pretty quickly that the flashing lights from the TV were keeping Hayes awake
and it was amazing how quickly he would settle down once the TV was off!
Another thing that I think is a total miracle worker is “shushing”,
I’m pretty sure they make actual devices that do this but we use Kyle’s work phone and just
youtube “8-10 hours of baby shushing” and it really does soothe Hayes, and honestly it soothes us too! lol

I always have a pacifier close by as well, sometimes Hayes will take it and sometimes he won’t,
but those nights that he does take it, it’s a life saver!
We’ve also been using some Essential Oils for bed time, diffusing and also applying to Hayes’s little feet.
Let me know if y’all are interested in knowing more about which oils we’ve been using.

I know a lot of you were hoping for some kind of routine or daily schedule post,
but that’s just not our reality right now. I hope this was at least somewhat helpful though!!
To all you mamas reading this, IT’S ALMOST THE WEEKEND!!!!!

Must read books for first time moms


The day I found out I was pregnant was easily the most exciting day of my life.
Kyle and I had been trying for a couple years with no luck, so to say it was a complete
shock would be an understatement…I was in absolute disbelief, and of course the joy and excitement running through my veins was just unexplainable!
You can read more about our pregnancy story here.

After sharing the news with Kyle and our close family and friends I soon realized,
holy crap I don’t know what the heck to do with a baby!!!

I am totally the type of person that LOVES being prepared, I love having a plan,
I love knowing what’s going to happen and what to expect in all situations.
Obviously, when it comes to babies, especially you’re very own unique, individual,
special, one of a kind baby…there’s only so much “preparation” you can do!
BUT I knew I wanted some good books to read to help ease this mind of mine
and help me feel just a litttttllleeeeee more prepared for when baby comes!

DISCLAIMER: I totally 100% support all you soon to be mamas who say “STOP READING”
just do whatever works for you and your baby! I’m ALL about that life, and say
“YES! You do you mama!!” but that just isn’t me, and I’ve loved having different books to read!

Anyways, I’ve made it super easy for y’all and each book image is clickable and shopable!
I’ve actually only read 2 of these books so far and currently in the middle of another!
But I went ahead and asked a bunch of you what your favorites were and not only did I get a great amount of feedback but I had an overwhelming amount of you asking for me to share what everyone else was sharing with me! So that’s what I’ll be doing today!!

The 3 books I read during my pregnancy & 100% recommend:

The very first book I read wasn’t necessarily an informative one,
but moreso a super relatable/hilarious/calm ya down/make ya feel normal kind of book!
One of my girlfriends gifted this book to me and it was THE best thing ever.
I seriously can’t even tell y’all how hard I laughed while reading this!

The next book I suggest is totally “basic” and I didn’t exactly read each page,
but I 100% enjoyed skimming through it and learning about what was going on inside my body each week/month!

This next book was also gifted/lent to us and I am SO thankful for it!!!
(currently reading)
It’s been extremely informative not only on babies but also on breastfeeding – which I plan on doing!
This plan is super easy and customizable – for instance, if you’re not planning on breastfeeding it will totally work for you as well, It pretty much works for ANY mama/family (so it says/so i’ve heard)
Obviously Hayes isn’t here yet so I’m not speaking from personal experience,
But we have had MULTIPLE friends say that this book completely changed their lives when it comes to baby sleeping through the night early on.

Alright, now here’s a list of some of the books that y’all suggested and recommended!
If you highly recommend any that aren’t on here let me know and I’ll update this list!!
I actually just purchased “The power of a praying parent”,
I already have “The power of a praying wife” and LOVE it so much!

Hopefully y’all enjoyed this post!! And hopefully it was a little helpful for some of you soon to be mamas who are similar to me!
Let me know if you end up grabbing one of these books
or if you’ve already read one/a few!

Happy Tuesday!