First, and foremost.

I am by no means a person to be giving any marital advice, that is NOT what this post is.

It’s just me sharing what i’ve experienced & learned  in my 2 years of marriage,

 after making mistakes and doing a little trial and error. 

My hope is maybe that it will help someone who may be experiencing the same things,

to know they are not alone,

or prevent them from experiencing some of the hardships of marriage that can be avoided.

Let’s get started….

There is no such thing as perfect people, 

which means there is no such thing as a perfect marriage/relationship.

So to everyone watching romance movies and reading romance novels

 and expecting that to be your future, keep crying ladies, because perfect men do not exist.

Neither do perfect women, so go ahead and set your tiara down.

We as humans have a sinful nature, and that’s that.

My husband and I dated a good 7-8 years before we made the decision to get married.

I mean, I thought I knew everything there possibly was to know about him…WRONG.

We had never lived together previously…and good God almighty you learn A LOT about a person after living with them.

For instance, Kyle’s learned that I always leave the bathroom messy, especially the sink.

I’m an extremely messy teeth brusher and it drives him absolutely nuts.

Not to mention all of the clothes I tried on for the day, those are all on the floor. 

And I’ve learned that men are incapable of wiping off the counter/sink after they shave.

Kyle is somewhat of a clean freak (which I love) BUT for some unknown reason

he does not mind his facial hair sitting in our sink for days on end. 

(needless to say our bathroom is repulsive…ha! totally kidding I actually cleaned it yesterday)

Those of course are silly/little examples that you learn to work on for the sake of your spouse.

Kyle and I had a pretty great & easy going first year of marriage,

I remember people always telling/warning us,

 “Ohhhh the first year is the toughest, Just stay strong, you’ll get through it”

and I always remember thinking during our first year….

“Dang, if this is what people consider tough then we’re going to be the happiest couple alive.”

Fast forward to our second year…

“OHHHHH this is what they were talking about!”

Marriage is such a beautiful and amazing gift that God has given us,

but it’s also a lot of hard work.

There will be days when you want to physically strangle your significant other…

and it’s all up to you to not act on that desire (haha laugh, its a joke — kind of)

Now i’m not saying EVERY single one of you will experience these struggles, 

but let me just warn you that not one person is exempt from them.

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle financially,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with time management,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with freedom,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with temptation,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with selfishness,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with feeling alone,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with household chores,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with in laws/ family members,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with deaths,

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with heart ache, 

There will be times in your marriage when you will struggle with picking up your socks off the floor…

And consider yourself one of the lucky ones if you only experience one of these at a time.

Because, they sure as hell can all hit you at once,

 and that’s only a short list of all of the possible struggles….

But guess what?! It’s ALL worth it. 

Whether you’re married or not, relationships are hard work, 

and to those people that say, 

“if it’s true love it shouldn’t be work at all”

they can all go shove that sentence up their butt because they don’t know what they’re talking about,

or they’ve just never been in a serious long term relationship before. 

I’m not saying it’s always hard work y’all.

Loving Kyle comes very easy the majority of the time.

He’s handsome, he’s caring, he’s giving, he’s faithful, he’s a hard worker…

I could go on and on about the qualities I adore about him. 

 But one of the most important things I have learned these last 2 years is about myself.

I’ve finally learned after 26 years that I cannot rely on a man for everything.

God gave us a partner to enjoy and do life with but not to BE our life.

As soon as you start relying on your spouse to be EVERYthing for you, 

you are going to find yourself VERY unhappy.

People are flawed, 

no man/woman will have every single little quality on your “perfect spouse” check list, 

You have to be happy with yourself, and your life before you can truly be happy with your spouse.

You have to find your purpose outside of just being a wife.

And that was one thing I really struggled with this 2nd year of marriage.

Yes I own a business, I work from home, where I’m alone, by myself, all day, every day.

and y’all that’s TOUGH. 

I remember being in high school and just wanting to be a stay at home mom, 

or having a job where I could work from home…that was MY DREAM y’all.

And fast forward to now, I’m literally living my dream and i’ve never been so unhappy. 

But that’s okay. Because i’ve finally learned what’s causing that sadness and guess what?

It’s NOT my husband!!!!

It’s ME.

I am a very social person, I need people, I need communication, I need physical affection, I need to be challenged, I need to have a goal i’m working toward.  

Working from home I get absolutely ZERO of that, and by the time Kyle came home from work every day I was absolutely desperate for all of it…and he was exhausted and just wanted a few minutes to himself. 

This my friends, is a very dangerous path…

Now i’m not going to get into all the details… but if you aren’t happy with yourself it can cause you to blame others for your unhappiness. 

It may have taken me a lot longer than I would have hoped but i’ve finally come to the realization

that it’s not my husband that’s not giving me enough,

it’s me expecting him to give me EVERYTHING, and then being upset when he isn’t able too.

You CANNOT rely on your spouse to fulfill your every want and need at all times. 

This is what you have God, family and friends for. 

Happiness starts with YOU, 

not your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with YOU.

I’m so thankful for a God who shows me that i’m capable of so much more than I think I am. 

Who loves me though I fail him every day,

Who sees the depths of my heart and loves me the same.

“I will praise you in this storm. I raise my hands and praise the God who gives and takes away.”

Life is all about learning & growing and becoming better than you were yesterday.
And I can’t wait to see where God takes Kyle and I the next 100  (give or take a few) years we have together…

If you know me at all…you will know that I HATE cooking.

It literally gives me anxiety, and I have no common sense when it comes to cooking, whatsoever.

I NEED a detailed, specific recipe to go by, 

and even if I follow it step by step something always goes wrong.


But guess what?!

I’m kind of getting the hang of things!

[kind of]

So for all of my fellow clueless cooking ladies, I bring you my favorite go to recipes!
Most of these recipes are from pinterest, but it’s always nice to know
that someone (with little cooking skill) has actually cooked them,
and they turned out great!

First: Chicken Avocado salad

This is the EASIEST thing you will ever “make” in your entire life.

I am an avocado ADDICT. like for real.

I stumbled across this recipe on pinterest but I actually left out some ingredients.

Go to the store and buy yourself one of those delicious rotisserie chickens,

a few avocados and some limes.

The recipe also calls for cilantro and chopped green onions but I didn’t have those

at the house so I skipped them.

Here’s what you do:

Cut up your rotisserie chicken into small pieces until you have about 2 cups full 

then take 2 avocados and slice those babies.

Mix the chicken and avocado together in a bowl and throw some salt on there,

and cut up a lime and squeeze the juice into the bowl.

and voila…SO easy and SO delicious and SO simple!

Kyle and I have eaten it 3 times this past week.

If you love avocados this might become your new favorite meal,

because I crave it every day now…no joke ladies.

Second: Lemon Baked Salmon

Okay, y’all this is GOOD and your husband WILL be impressed.


This recipe was also found on pinterest [duh, where else?!]

4 tsp minced garlic
3/4 cup light olive oil
2 tsp dried basil
2 tsp salt
2 tsp ground black pepper
2 T lemon juice
2 T fresh parsley, chopped
4 fillets salmon

1. in a medium bowl, mix garlic, olive oil, basil, salt, pepper, lemon, & parsley
2. line a glass baking dish w/ foil & place fillets on top
(i like to spray butter on them before drizzling the marinade)
3. drizzle marinade on salmon, cover with foil
4. preheat oven to 375, cook for 25-30 minutes!

Third: Black Bean Enchiladas 

[I may have overdone it on the cheese…Just kidding you can  never have too much cheese]

My sweet friend Anna gave me this recipe and it is now one
of me and Kyles absolute favorites!
and it is SO easy!

1 can black beans, washed
1 can refrained black beans
2 T cumin (more or less, whichever you prefer)
2 T Chili powder (more or less whichever you prefer)
Mix together

Take 1 cup tomato sauce
1 T cumin
1 T chili powder
and pour into skillet
Individually soak tortillas in sauce mixture then set aside on paper towels.
Fill each tortilla w/ black bean mixture and sprinkle some cheddar cheese inside.
preheat oven to 325
place enchiladas in baking dish and sprinkle cheddar cheese over all.
cook for 30 minutes!


Denim Jacket: J Crew

Sandals: Forever 21 (old)

Purse: Brandy Melville

I think it’s pretty obvious how in love I am with this jean jacket.

I mean I wear it at least 3 times a week.

On Saturday I forced Kyle to take me on a margarita date 

since he’d been playing golf all day.

We were long overdue for one anyways!

It was great, as usual.
and I ate wayyyy too much, as usual.

Married life is pretty great, I think I’m getting the hang of this whole “wife” thing.
Tomorrow I’m going to share some of my favorite (easy) recipes!
I’m the worst cook known to man and these recipes always save me.
Can’t wait to share with y’all!!

Oh and my baby is not a baby anymore…
Geez they grow FAST!

Could she be any cuter though?!